From the time we are children until the day that we die, we have a longing to be enough. We want to have worth and to be valued. It’s not selfish or self-centered. It’s natural. No one is exempt from the desire to be enough or to be something. No one walks through life wanting to be an absolutely no body with no goals, no value, or no purpose. We don’t have everything in common, but this is one thing that we all have in common. No matter your gender, your race, your ethnicity, your culture, or your name: You want to be enough.
Who determines what is enough?
What does it mean to be enough?
When do we know if we are enough?
Why do we need to be enough?
Where do we go to become enough?
How do we measure what is enough?
These are life’s unanswered questions. I cannot answer them for you, but I can answer them for myself. Your parents can’t answer these for you or even for each other. Your spouse can’t answer them for you, neither can your children, or your friends. Your mentors and leaders can’t answer them for you, but they can answer them for themselves. The answer is different for everyone. There is not a common answer for us all.
It is possible to have the wrong answer, but it’s not for anyone else to tell you that your answer is wrong. You determine what is enough for your life. You determine what it means for you to be enough. Likewise, you determine when you know that you are enough. You determine why you need to be enough. You determine where you need to go to become enough or if you even need to go to be enough. You determine how to measure what is enough for you.
If this post isn’t working for you, maybe it’s not because I’m talking in circles or saying conflicting things. Maybe it’s because you don’t know your worth. Maybe it’s because you don’t know if you’re enough or you don’t feel like you’re enough. It is common for people to walk through life and never feel like they have lived up to their potential. Why? Because they let others answer their questions.
I’ve answered my questions for me. I won’t share them with you because their mine, and they don’t matter when it comes to you answering your questions. My answers relate to my faith and how I find my value in who I am. If you are having a difficult time answering these questions, sit in that confusion for a while. Understand that these aren’t easy questions to answer, but they are necessary. After you’ve sat there, really dig deep into who you are as person, why you are who you are, and if you still struggle, talk with someone who can be objective, someone who can help you decide for yourself what your answers are to these questions.
I believe you are all enough, but that means absolutely nothing if you don’t believe or know why.